How To Choose Your Path Of Least Regret
- Parul Somani
- Mar 24
- 4 min read
Three Questions to Guide Your Hardest Decisions
There’s a moment right before a decision is made that is very quiet. Just you, staring at two paths and realizing one of them will close forever once you choose.
I felt that way after our company was acquired. On paper, staying made sense. After all, who wouldn’t want stability, resources, and a recognizable brand behind us. After years in a startup environment, that kind of security is rare. But something in me had shifted after cancer. I wasn’t optimizing for stability anymore. I was optimizing for meaning.
That crossroads forced me to slow down and ask better questions. Over time, those questions became the backbone of how I make hard decisions, whether in career, health, leadership, or family. They’re simple. But they’ve never failed me.
1. What am I optimizing for?
When uncertainty hits, most of us default to movement. We update the resume. We take the meeting. We say yes before we’ve fully thought it through because action feels productive.
But action without clarity creates regret.
Before deciding whether to stay or leave after the acquisition, I had to get honest about what I was really solving for. Was it title? Compensation? Security? Or was it alignment with the person I had become?
The same question applies everywhere. If you’re choosing a treatment plan, are you optimizing for longevity? Quality of life? Minimal disruption to your family? If you’re leading a business, are you optimizing for short-term revenue or long-term culture? If you’re navigating caregiving for a parent, are you optimizing for convenience or dignity?
Until you name what matters most in this season, every option will feel noisy. Clarity quiets the noise.
2. How do I feel about my options?
Once I identified that I wanted my work to reflect something deeply personal and mission-driven, I pursued an opportunity at a healthcare startup. It felt aligned and purposeful. When the offer came, I should have felt relief. Instead, I felt tension.
The role required heavy travel. My daughters were still young. I could feel the dread building in my body before I admitted it out loud. Logically, the job was perfect. Yet emotionally, it wasn’t sitting right.
We’re often taught to override our emotions in decision-making. To be rational, strategic, and objective. But emotions are information. They signal misalignment, fear, hope, resistance, longing. That doesn’t mean we obey every feeling. It does, however, mean we listen.
When you consider your options, notice what happens in your body. Does one feel expansive and another constricting? Does one bring a quiet steadiness while another brings agitation? Those signals matter.
3. Which path will maximize my peace of mind?
This is the question that changes everything.
Peace of mind is not the same as certainty. It doesn’t guarantee outcomes or eliminate risk. It simply means that, given what you know today and what you value today, you can stand by your choice.
In my case, accepting the offer as-is would have compromised the family life I was protecting. Declining it entirely would have meant walking away from a mission that deeply resonated with me. So instead of choosing between Option A and Option B, I asked for something different. A role with less travel. A structure that aligned with both my purpose and my family.
But once I asked myself which option would let me sleep at night, even if it didn’t work out, the answer became clear. I could risk negotiating. I couldn’t risk ignoring what mattered most.
This framework has guided decisions far beyond my own career. It applies when choosing a treatment plan and when deciding whether to pivot a business. When determining how to show up for your children and when advocating for aging parents. Leadership, at its core, is a series of crossroads. The same is true for life.
So, pause for a moment. What is a current decision point you’re facing? When you ask yourself, “What is my path of least regret?” what thoughts arise?
Who are the stakeholders in your decision? How might each option affect them? And knowing that, which path leaves you with the greatest peace of mind, even if the outcome is uncertain?
Hard decisions don’t get easier. But when you choose from clarity instead of fear, peace tends to follow.
This is post #5 in a 12-part blog series inspired by the themes in Parul’s forthcoming book, The Path of Least Regret: Decide with Clarity. Move Forward with Confidence, releasing on March 31, 2026. Pre-orders for the book are now open on Amazon and other major retailers.
Each article stands alone, but together, they empower readers to navigate the emotional journey of change and decision-making with resilience and intention. To read earlier posts, visit Parul’s Forbes contributor page.
Learn more about Parul’s upcoming book and sign-up for a free worksheet on “Five Questions to Guide Your Decision-Making” at parulsomani.com.
Note: This post was originally published on Forbes.com on March 11, 2026.
About Parul Somani
Parul Somani is a decision strategist, keynote speaker, and author helping people navigate change with clarity and confidence. A graduate of MIT and Harvard Business School, she built her career at Bain & Company and in Silicon Valley startups before a life-altering cancer diagnosis at age thirty-one reshaped her path. Drawing on both professional expertise and personal resilience, she developed the Path of Least Regret® framework, which Fortune 100 companies and high achievers worldwide now use to make resilient decisions in life and leadership. Featured in Forbes, MIT Technology Review, Thrive Global, Psychology Today and other notable publications, Parul empowers others to thrive with intention and resilience.
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