When A New Year Isn’t A Clean Slate: Why Mental Roadblocks Don’t Care About Resolutions

Three Strategies for Overcoming the Mindsets that Hold You Back

January has a particular kind of energy. Gym memberships spike. Planners get filled. Intentions are set with the hope that this year will finally be different. But by February, many of those declarations start to fade. Not because we didn’t mean them, but because old thought patterns don’t vanish just because the calendar flipped.

The truth is, a “fresh start” doesn’t mean much if we’re still dragging the same mental roadblocks into the new year. The fear that kept you from applying to that role last summer? Still there. The identity you’ve wrapped around your job title? Still sticky. The inner voice whispering that you’re not ready, not enough, not the kind of person who makes bold moves? Still talking.

These are mental roadblocks. They hum in the background, convincing you that staying put is smarter than risking regret. That familiar discomfort is safer than unfamiliar possibility.

A “fresh start” doesn’t mean much if we’re still dragging the same mental roadblocks into the new year. Jam - stock.adobe.com

We all have them. For some, it’s stress shutting down decision-making. Others get stuck in “what if” spirals or let ego masquerade as practicality. I’ve seen it in myself, and I’ve seen it in every client I’ve worked with; people who seem confident and accomplished on the outside but are quietly paralyzed by the invisible weight of overthinking, fear, or imposter syndrome.

So if your resolutions already feel fragile, this might be why. The good news is, the path forward doesn’t require forcing yourself to try harder. It starts with understanding how your mind works and learning to work with it.

Here are three strategies that have helped me and others break through mental blocks, starting with the smallest shifts.

1. Seize a single moment of control.

When everything feels like too much, pick something that isn’t. When I was in cancer treatment, shaving my head felt like reclaiming power in a situation I couldn’t control. It didn’t change the diagnosis, but it changed the story. You don’t need a grand gesture. Book the appointment. Send the email. Declutter one drawer. Tiny actions restore agency.

2. Reframe the moment.

I was terrified before my first chemo session. Then my husband said, “Today is the largest your tumor will ever be.” That sentence reframed everything. The fear didn’t disappear, but now it had context. Instead of thinking, “This is the beginning of something hard,” I could think, “This is the beginning of healing.” Reframing doesn’t mean pretending things are good. It means recognizing that two things can be true at once. This is hard, and I’m handling it.

3. Let go of the script.

Sometimes the biggest block is the life we thought we were supposed to have. Letting go of that imagined version doesn’t mean giving up. It means making space for something more aligned with who we are now. That might mean releasing an old ambition or accepting that the “right” choice on paper isn’t right for you anymore.

This year, instead of setting goals you hope you’ll stick to, ask yourself what’s been keeping you stuck. And then, gently and intentionally, start to work with that.

The emotional roadblocks won’t dissolve overnight. But with daily practice, they can be managed and eventually overcome.

Take a Minute to Reflect

What negative thought patterns are you at risk of having turn into mental roadblocks?

Which of the aforementioned strategies might best help you in overcoming those detrimental mindsets?

The Path of Least Regret by Parul Somani is scheduled for release in March 2026 with Forbes Books.

This is post #3in a 12-part blog series inspired by the themes in my forthcoming book, The Path of Least Regret: Decide with Clarity. Move Forward with Confidence. Each article stands alone, but together, they guide readers through the emotional journey of change and decision-making and how to navigate it with my signature Path of Least Regret® framework. To read earlier posts, visit my Forbes contributor page.

Learn more about Parul’s upcoming book at parulsomani.com, publishing in March 2026 with pre-orders beginning soon. Sign up for launch updates today and receive a free worksheet on “Five Questions to Guide Your Decision-Making.”

Note: This post was originally published on Forbes.com on January 7, 2026.

About Parul Somani

Parul Somani is a thought leader in the field of intentional living, dedicated to helping people navigate change with clarity and confidence. A graduate of MIT and Harvard Business School, she built her career at Bain & Company and in Silicon Valley startups before a life-altering cancer diagnosis at age thirty-one reshaped her path. Drawing on both professional expertise and personal resilience, she developed the Path of Least Regret® framework, which Fortune 100 companies and high achievers worldwide now use to make resilient decisions in life and leadership. Featured in Forbes, MIT Technology Review, Thrive Global, and other notable publications, Parul empowers others to thrive with intention and resilience.

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